If you read my last post you know that a growth mindset is important for recovery and self-development. So, how do you actually get yourself into a growth mindset? Here are some suggestions:
1. Make a habit of looking out for signs of a fixed mindset. The goal of a growth mindset is never complete. Like motivation, you have to keep working at it every day. To do this, keep tabs on it.
2. Listen out for any thoughts or self-talk that sounds like this:
“ I can’t do it. I won’t be able to”
“If I make a mistake, they will laugh at me”
“I’m going to look foolish”
“That person is better than me. I hate them”.
3. When you try something and don’t achieve it, or you don’t do as well as you hoped. Add this important word to the end of this thought. “I can’t do this…..YET!” This one word takes you from fixed (why bother trying again) to growth (lets work out how to make it better next time). You are much more likely to persist. Never behave as if mistakes are negative. They are essential to learning.
4. When faced with the choice of something safe versus a big challenge, choose the big challenge. When there is more chance of failure, there is more chance for learning and growth.
5. When you hit problems and difficulties, respond to yourself with compassion (see my other posts on compassionate self-talk). Then ask, “what can I learn from this?” And “what can I try next?”
6. When you see someone doing better than you, learn from them. Turn jealousy and envy into inspiration and mentoring.
Which one of these works best for you? If you want more on this subject just type MORE OF THIS in the comments.