Self-sabotage can sometimes be knowing what is best for you, and not doing it. Repeatedly. These can be small moments, like choosing the food that doesn’t nourish you. Or bigger decisions, like choosing relationships that hurt you. Self-observation and reflection helps us identify the behaviour patterns that we feel stuck in. Once we have a map of those patterns firmly in our mind we can begin to identify them even as they are happening. This creates a window of opportunity to go with it or choose something different. Something different that has our own best interests at heart. Something that enables us to live by our own values and our vision of the life we want to live.